~* Ash *~
Over the weekend, Lu and I went to a conference together. Unlike our va-conferences -- where one of us works and plays and the other mostly just plays -- this event was one of those rare, cross-disciplinary occasions, where both of us were firmly in our developing scholar roles.
At dinner, I leaned over and whispered in Lu's ear, "I think you're the sexiest guy in this room."
To which he confidently replied, "Even more than that guy right behind me?"
Ironically, I'd actually checked out the "guy right behind him" during dinner and thought, "Hmmm, if I were single and Lu wasn't here, I'd definitely try to find an opportunity to flirt with him."
In fact, the guy had even approached the dessert table when I was there; and over a brief exchange about cheesecake, I was thinking, "Yep, single Val sooo would've given him a business card."
Therefore, when Lu brought up this guy confidently (and even with a smile), my jaw dropped! My thoughts raced, "How the heck could he know what I was thinking? Did he see us talking earlier? Was I flirting with the guy?! Oh, no! I thought I'd put away the unintentional flirting. Darn it, darn it! I need to work harder."
When I asked Lu how he'd picked this guy out of the 200-person crowd, he mentioned that I have a very distinct type. Lu and I received our undergrad degrees from pretty much the same place. Even though we didn't know each other, he knew, knew of, and/or even had classes with a few of the guys that I dated. The other guys, he'd seen pictures of on Facebook. (Gotta love Facebook.)
Yeah, awkward.
Lu described my type as, "Smart."
Okay, well, everyone at the conference was getting a PhD, so that one was pretty easy.
Then he elaborated, "Not just smart, but not afraid to be smart. But not like a nerd either. Like he'll be attractive and almost have swag, but it's still kinda awkward. Like 'Yeah, I'm intelligent, I'm attractive, I'm confident... now.' You like those well-rounded guys that have evolved. Other women might notice them, but you'll be drawn to them. Yep, I know my wife."
And he surely does. Okay, whatever. Maybe this does describe most of the guys that I dated and definitely men that I really liked. However, how did he pick this guy out of a crowd?
"Because he's the kind of guy that I'd make friends with if I were alone at this conference."
To which I replied, "So, you think I'd date your friends?"
Lu immediately said no but paused, "You definitely wouldn't date my friends, but at a place like this, I think we're attracted to the same people. Not attracted, like that, but you know. Like if it were a woman with the same characteristics, you'd probably try to strike up a conversation. But since it's a guy..."
"So, you think we have the same type?"
"In a sense, yeah. I'd notice him and make friends. You'd notice him and flirt... well, you would have if you weren't married."
Okay, I can see that. Interestingly enough, I think it's actually a good thing that my husband and I are drawn to the same types of people. It's weird and a bit unnerving, but it's also pretty cool to be married for almost a year and find out that we're compatible in yet another way.
At dinner, I leaned over and whispered in Lu's ear, "I think you're the sexiest guy in this room."
To which he confidently replied, "Even more than that guy right behind me?"
Ironically, I'd actually checked out the "guy right behind him" during dinner and thought, "Hmmm, if I were single and Lu wasn't here, I'd definitely try to find an opportunity to flirt with him."
In fact, the guy had even approached the dessert table when I was there; and over a brief exchange about cheesecake, I was thinking, "Yep, single Val sooo would've given him a business card."
Therefore, when Lu brought up this guy confidently (and even with a smile), my jaw dropped! My thoughts raced, "How the heck could he know what I was thinking? Did he see us talking earlier? Was I flirting with the guy?! Oh, no! I thought I'd put away the unintentional flirting. Darn it, darn it! I need to work harder."
When I asked Lu how he'd picked this guy out of the 200-person crowd, he mentioned that I have a very distinct type. Lu and I received our undergrad degrees from pretty much the same place. Even though we didn't know each other, he knew, knew of, and/or even had classes with a few of the guys that I dated. The other guys, he'd seen pictures of on Facebook. (Gotta love Facebook.)
Yeah, awkward.
Lu described my type as, "Smart."
Okay, well, everyone at the conference was getting a PhD, so that one was pretty easy.
Then he elaborated, "Not just smart, but not afraid to be smart. But not like a nerd either. Like he'll be attractive and almost have swag, but it's still kinda awkward. Like 'Yeah, I'm intelligent, I'm attractive, I'm confident... now.' You like those well-rounded guys that have evolved. Other women might notice them, but you'll be drawn to them. Yep, I know my wife."
And he surely does. Okay, whatever. Maybe this does describe most of the guys that I dated and definitely men that I really liked. However, how did he pick this guy out of a crowd?
"Because he's the kind of guy that I'd make friends with if I were alone at this conference."
To which I replied, "So, you think I'd date your friends?"
Lu immediately said no but paused, "You definitely wouldn't date my friends, but at a place like this, I think we're attracted to the same people. Not attracted, like that, but you know. Like if it were a woman with the same characteristics, you'd probably try to strike up a conversation. But since it's a guy..."
"So, you think we have the same type?"
"In a sense, yeah. I'd notice him and make friends. You'd notice him and flirt... well, you would have if you weren't married."
Okay, I can see that. Interestingly enough, I think it's actually a good thing that my husband and I are drawn to the same types of people. It's weird and a bit unnerving, but it's also pretty cool to be married for almost a year and find out that we're compatible in yet another way.
